the good in ‘goodbyes’

to say goodbye is one of the most, if not, well, maybe it is one of the saddest things to hear, but it will probably depend upon any context. There’s an exciting goodbye when our teacher dismisses us from the class. A “see you tomorrow” goodbye which is kind of light to mouth to. There are also goodbyes that are deep and will eventually lead to grieving.

Here, I want to specifically talk about a certain goodbye that means letting go of a feeling towards a person that you once had a connection to and shared some sentiments in life with. But with the passage of time, it just eventually gone for some very important reasons too, and though you might still feel a bit of longing towards the person to share your life with, you know in advance that there’s little hope for that anymore. 

Acceptance is the key. There’s nothing more practical than accepting the fact that a situation or person that you solely long for isn’t just made for you. It leaves the person no choice but to say the word—“goodbye”. Unless you want to stay and spiral down with the risk of emotional and mental discomfort. 

That does not end there of course. Let me give you a friendly thought.

Do you know that between 1565 and 1675, where contraction of phrase emerged, the word “Goodbye” comes from the term “Godbwye”? Such contraction eventually leads to, “God be with you”. In 1573, a man named Gabriel Harvey, an English writer and a scholar, was first documented as he used the word “Godbwye”, that appeared in his letter.

He wrote:

“To requite your gallonde of godbwyes, I regive you a pottle of howdyes.”  

“As time passed by, the  phrase was influenced by terms like “good day” and “good evening”, then it is being transitioned from “God be with ye” to God-b’wye to good-b’wy and finally making in today’s blessing of goodbye.”

finally, saying goodbye doesn’t hurt after all.

It simply means that, “okay, you can go now, but know this, may God be with you”.

Always,

Nics

goodbye.

🤍